A few years ago, I heard Brene’ Brown speak at Blissdom and wanted to run out and buy everything she had written. I didn’t. I just found my notebook from that time. Here are a couple quotes I wrote down that resonated with me at that time…AND even more today.
“There is a short list of people whose opinions really matter to me.”
I just bought her book I thought it was just me (but it isn’t). Below is a short description of the book. Full book description here.
“The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the world. As hard as we try, we can’t seem to turn off the tapes that fill our heads with messages like, “Never good enough!” and “What will people think?”
I haven’t wanted to write on this blog for awhile now. I mean…I can show you all the before and after slipcover’s in the world, but the truth is that right now I’m living slipcover to slipcover and eBook to eBook. I’m recently separated from my husband. Many will be shocked…maybe not. We looked like the perfect little family on the outside, but inside…we were not. I’m not going to go into details right now. I’m still in the process of learning how to own my story and love myself through that process. And everyday, I’m getting…just a little bit braver. Maybe I’ll write more about it, maybe I won’t. I just felt the need to share this today.
I love you. Stay brave, stand tall, and don't take shit from anybody. ♥
I agree with Carrie above. Good way to say it. I just saw your headline in my reader and thought “I haven't been there in a while.” So glad I clicked on. Life throws us such curve balls. All I can say is catch it and run with it it in the direction that works for you. Don't be afraid. More people feel your pain and/or support you than you can ever imagine.
Kristi – Hang in there! I was where you are three years ago. Trust God to see you through. Sometimes even His plans don't please others. You know what the “perfect life” was like on the inside. Don't settle.
It will get better. And remember one bad day does not mean a bad life. Even a bad year is bearable if you just keep remembering you deserve better and you will get a better life. I've been there and done it. Remember to forgive yourself because there is no perfection.
I knew you'd been quiet but I don't “know” you well enough to say, “is everything ok?”
Just keep your head up and as Dory says, just keep swimming. Time and prayer will help you get through your days until you are ready to own that story and share it.
♥ Sonny ♥ says
I went through this last year and stayed silent . except to a very few who not only Didnt support me- they turned away from me.. I found new folks who wrapped their arms and hearts around me with understanding and comfort and they have my lifelong thanks.
I am certain your new journey will leads you on roads you didnt imagine and you will find Joy-Fulfillment- and Love on them.
I am wishing you every Happiness this earthly plane has to offer.
Handmade Housewife... says
I'm proud of you for putting yourself out there! It's scary but I think you're finingd a whole community of women who understand…marriages intact on the other side of the pain or not. His plans are not our plans, but they are perfect…trust that. Praying for you friend!
Pink Overalls @DIY Home Staging says
Trying not to cry, here. Not necessarily because your news is sad, but because I know it's an emotional time. Been there. No one makes this decision lightly, so I am sure you made the right call.
One step in front of the other. You can do this, and bust on through to the other side!
Viva Bella! Beautiful Living says
I loved this post….because we all know that this is life and the truth is…it happens to us all. There is no such thing as perfection, but there is living your life and learning to love yourself. I am praying for your healing and for extra strength — you are STILL an inspiration! I have even more respect for you!
Although we haven't met and I've never commented here before, my thoughts are with you, and I'm wishing you strength and love.
Thinking of you and sending support vibes. Only you know the path you've walked and it sounds like your path is winding down a different road. Embrace tomorrow with gusto, we know not when our journey will end.
Im not meaning to sound poetic just know how life can feel when the rug slips out from underneath.
Labyrinth Gal says
I've got you in my Google Reader and haven't read it in awhile. I'm another one of your readers who has never commented, but I just wanted you to know that you have a whole lot of women who are supporting you as you go thru this. I never wrote about my divorce on my blog, either. It's all rainbows, puppies & unicorns. But you will get thru this.
When you live in the truth of what your soul is telling you, it doesn't matter what other people think. So live in your truth and speak your truth. If you lose some friends who don't like the new (real) you, you'll find some new friends who do!
I wish you all the BEST, 🙂 H.
P.S. Sending HAPPY thoughts of rainbows, puppies, & unicorns.
P.P.S. As I was publishing this, my WV was “ackajus”–which is a variation of what I was calling my ex-husband at the time of our divorce. 😉
Brave it out.
Robin Gray-Duke says
Who's perfect… No one!! We all will have our ups and downs and we'll all screw up at one point or another. I realize this post is from a few months past… I hope that by now… you have made it through those dark cloudy times. I hope all is well with you Kristi and that life is much happier now. If not… HE will see you through. Lean on him!! God Bless!!